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SerenityMan

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    HEY, Y'all!

    I have been gone a LOOOOOOOOOOONG time! I don't recognize the names I'm seeing! Glad to see you all still carrying on the fight. If I make it 5 more days, I'll be claiming 10 years Copenhagen-free. Keep coming back, boys. This site saved my ass and it can save yours if you do what we suggest.
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    HEY, Y'all!

    Howdy, Euty! Good to see you again, too!
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    HEY, Y'all!

    Kirov! Good to see you still around, too. One of my employees asked me about the site this morning. I thought I would introduce him to it.
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    Roll Call

    Beyotch Slapping Freedom Fighters Roll Call Still Kickin' Ass TEN+ Years Later! 15 NOV 2018 Report post (IP: 71.79.54.6) Posted October 12, 2015 SM - fuckload, lost count - 5 days away from ten years.
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    Quitting Drinking

    No Booze Crew ...where 1 is too many and 24 isn't enough. 11/18/2015 SM - I quit drinking in 2004. I've learned that some people can quit on their own, but others, like me, had lost the power of choice when it came to alcohol. I would find myself time and time again finding a rationalization for picking up that first drink, only to swear that I would never do it again. I never had a DUI, was never abusive to my family, showed up and acted responsibly for all the stuff a husband and dad is "supposed" to, but I was drinking daily and dying on the inside. I took a test of 12 questions to ask myself if I was an alcoholic. Being the good student, of course I got an 'A.' Here is the pamphlet if anyone thinks their problem is more than just heavy drinking: http://www.aa.org/assets/en_US/aa-literature/p-3-is-aa-for-you Supporters:
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    Anxiety Management

    I have recently discovered that all my anxiety disappeared as soon as I decided that it was time to separate or divorce my wife. Long story short, it didn't happen (yet, anyway), but the fear is gone. I feel freer than I ever have. I had been living in fear of being myself, fear of being rejected, fear of financial ruin if I divorced, fear of what divorce would do to my kids. Now I am over the fear. That door is always an option, and for some reason, even if I don't open that door, it helps to know I am no longer trapped. I am here because I want to be.
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    Quitting Drinking

    No Booze Crew ...where 1 is too many and 24 isn't enough. 11/12/2015 Duf -242- Cherry Coke for me and whatever these two jokers are havin' FSHCM - 8 SM - 11+ yrs - Life has never been so good. Putting away the alcohol was the beginning of everything good in life. I am excited for anyone who makes the decision and lives it. Supporters: Craig
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    Roll Call

    Beyotch Slapping Freedom Fighters Roll Call Still Kickin' Ass FIVE+ Years Later! 17 Dec 2012 SM - 2517 - Weird coming back and being SM again, even for a minute. I came back to say I had one HELL of a Copenhagen craving a few moments ago. So out of the blue. Hmmph. Still not a danger of caving, but I can't say it was a pleasant feeling.
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    Quitting Drinking

    No Booze Crew ...where 1 is too many and 24 isn't enough. 10/12/2015 SM - 4036 - GREAT to see new names in here! It's been too long! Just celebrated 11 years last month, fellas. You can't MAKE me drink! Walleye - 42 Cogline- Duf -211- Another weekend down. Are you guys happy where u are at? Supporters: CraigMac6- Keep pushing forward guys! I support the no booze crew!
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    Quitting Drinking

    The No Booze Crew Keeping the lights on and the coffee hot for those in need. Monday, January 28, 2015 sm - 10 years and a bunch of days. Never felt better, boys! WTG FISH!
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    Quitting Drinking

    The No Booze Crew Keeping the lights on and the coffee hot for those in need. Thursday, December 11, 2014 FSHCM - 2 sm - another great week of sobriety. Mongrel, you already are going to live forever. And quitting drinking is still the right thing to do.
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    Quitting Drinking

    The No Booze Crew Keeping the lights on and the coffee hot for those in need. Sunday, November 30, 2014 mongrel - s42 - This room is for people who just want a place to drop in and catch their breath. Even if you have other methods, posting here can help you regroup. sm - Mongrel is a purebred sober quitter.
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    Running through your progressions

    You should post that on every page, every roll call, of every quit group for the next year. Everyone should have two copies of that: one folded and in your wallet, the other laminated and in your car. I DARE anyone to make it through all ten steps and still take a dip. Won't happen. Thanks, Sailor.
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    Quitting Drinking

    The No Booze Crew Keeping the lights on and the coffee hot for those in need. Wednesday, October 29, 2014 mongrel - D-Day 12 - You may ask yourself why I keep showing up here, playing to an empty room...See, I'm quitting for myself, first and foremost. and that makes the whole thing make sense. Got it? NAT. sm - 10 wonderful years - I hear ya, Mongrel! If you ever want a full room of sober quitters, I have some friends I could introduce you to!
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    Quitting Drinking

    The No Booze Crew Keeping the lights on and the coffee hot for those in need. October 12, 2014 sm - I celebrated 10 years sober on 9/23/14. Thank goodness it's over with! I was weepy with gratitude all week. People next to me at traffic lights were looking over and saying, "That poor man! Why is he crying?" I hope you all have been well. Anyone else regularly attending AA meetings?
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    I hope none of you have to experience what I did today

    Great post from Jeff2875. I don't want to take the wind out of anyone's sails, but after you've been quit and in these rooms for a few years, you'll see a lot of guys with cancer scares quit for a few weeks, maybe a few months, then relapse and disappear. The nature of this addiction is so strong that we continue to dip against every logical thought we have. It costs too much. Have a dip. It might kill me. Have a dip. I'm hiding it from my wife. Have another dip. My kids might see me and become addicted themselves. Have a dip. People think I'm a rube/loser/dirty-butt for dipping. Fuck 'em, have a dip. I hate the fact that I have no control over it. Have a dip. Acid reflux. Have a dip. Wife drank out of my spit can. Have a dip. Bad breath. Have a dip. If any of this were enough to quit, they wouldn't call it addiction. I can't speak for Jeff, but I haven't seen many (maybe the number is zero) dippers stay quit long term when they are doing it for family, health, money, kids, wife, dog, whatever. Many are successful when they decide they want it for themselves. They want to quit more than they want to chew. I couldn't even quit for myself. I guess I wasn't important enough to me. In the end, I came to believe that God wanted me to quit, so I did it out of gratitude and obedience to Him. Finally I had a reason bigger than myself, and it was enough, barely. If you want to quit, I would suggest you ask yourself a few serious questions. Do I want this in my heart and in my guts? Do I want this, wife or no wife, kids or no kids, job or no job, cancer or no cancer? If I could be guaranteed a long healthy life, dying in my sleep at age 111, would I still want to quit with all my heart? If the answer is yes, you might be ready. Good luck. sm - 2068 days dip-free and very grateful that you all are here still helping each other.
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    Quitting Drinking

    The No Booze Crew Keeping the lights on and the coffee hot for those in need. July 3rd, 2014 Truckerick - none for me. kirov - ain't missing a thing. sm - Mr. Yuck says, "Booze is poison!." Oops! My poop is playin' peek-a-boo. Gotta run! Have a safe and happy 4th!
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    Quitting Drinking

    The No Booze Crew Keeping the lights on and the coffee hot for those in need. June 4th, 2014 sm - "We thought we could find and easier, softer way, but we could not." Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 59? TR - "Then we have a certain type of hard drinker. He may have the habit bad enough to gradually impair him physically and mentally. It may cause him to die a few years before his time." Chapt. 2 pg. 20-21
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    Quitting Drinking

    May 24nd, 2014 Keeping the lights on and the coffee hot for those in need. kirov - Nothing. FSHCM - me either sm - roughly 3527 days quit drinking, 2012 quit dipping. Now if I can just quit lusting for Truckerick's meaty manhood...
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    Quitting Drinking

    "The NO BOOZE Crew" "Rarely have we seen a person fail..... if they don't buy it, don't bum it and don't put it in their mouth." -Truckerick May 3rd, 2014 Keeping the lights on and the coffee hot for those in need. Enter and Sign In for a taste of Freedom!!!!!!!!!!! A Time To Brian -The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing. Many pursue it into the gates of insanity or death. (Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 30) sm - I was out of town fishing for the week. Went to a meeting in Kentucky, in a little town called Hardin. Way out there - no cell service around the town. The meeting was great; instant friends, as though I'd known them for years. The cool thing was they all had Kentucky names: Marlin, Van, Dicky, Kable...
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    Quitting Drinking

    "The NO BOOZE Crew" "Rarely have we seen a person fail..... if they don't buy it, don't bum it and don't put it in their mouth." -Truckerick Thu Apr 24nd, 2014 Keeping the lights on and the coffee hot for those in need. Enter and Sign In for a taste of Freedom!!!!!!!!!!! A Time To Brian -The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing. Many pursue it into the gates of insanity or death. (Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 30) sm - no Mexico. Caught a stomach bug from the wife. Better now. The squirts & gas all gone. I need an AA meeting. This has been an emotional week.
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    Quitting Drinking

    "The NO BOOZE Crew" "Rarely have we seen a person fail..... if they don't buy it, don't bum it and don't put it in their mouth." -Truckerick Monday, April 21st, 2014 Keeping the lights on and the coffee hot for those in need. Enter and Sign In for a taste of Freedom!!!!!!!!!!! A Time To Brian -The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing. Many pursue it into the gates of insanity or death. (Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 30) TR - Clean in the Evergreen. Washington State that is. sm - Gratitude - I am grateful my Montezuma's Revenge isn't any worse than it is...
  23. I just found this thread. I don't visit the new groups as much as I used to. I remember the guys in my quit group complaining that they didn't want any know-it-all old timers coming in and tossing opinions around. We kind of liked keeping the quit to ourselves - the ones who were embracing the suck day by day. My quit date was Nov. 20, 2008. A few months before that, I heard an audible voice in my head say, "It's time." I immediately knew what it meant. The voice wasn't insistent, as in YOUHAVETODOTHISNOW. It was calm and sure, stating a fact, not an order or compulsion. I heard that voice, literally heard it like I would hear you talking in the same room with me, a few times over the span of months, and I knew I would set a date. When I threw away the last can, it was just as scary as every other quit attempt, but there was a simpler feeling that accompanied it. It was no longer, "I'll try." It was more like "Here I am now." Voices are not a part of my life. I know who I believe the voice was. I stopped chewing out of gratitude and obedience to Him.
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    Quitting Drinking

    "The NO BOOZE Crew" "Rarely have we seen a person fail..... if they don't buy it, don't bum it and don't put it in their mouth." -Truckerick Friday, April 18th, 2014 Keeping the lights on and the coffee hot for those in need. Enter and Sign In for a taste of Freedom!!!!!!!!!!! A Time To Brian -The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing. Many pursue it into the gates of insanity or death. (Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 30) TR - I will not imbibe today. sm - sorry I've been a ghost, TR. How about a topic for discussion? We'll let you pick the topic. Please no milkshakes;). Wow, that brings back memories!
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    Quitting Drinking

    "The NO BOOZE Crew" "Rarely have we seen a person fail..... if they don't buy it, don't bum it and don't put it in their mouth." -Truckerick Friday, April 11th, 2014 Keeping the lights on and the coffee hot for those in need. Enter and Sign In for a taste of Freedom!!!!!!!!!!! A Time To Brian -The idea that somehow, someday he will control and enjoy his drinking is the great obsession of every abnormal drinker. The persistence of this illusion is astonishing. Many pursue it into the gates of insanity or death. (Alcoholics Anonymous, p. 30) sm - I know that feeling, too. Every so often, everything becomes clearer. It's more than calm. Deeper. I feel focused, relaxed, alert, and at peace. The other day that feeling came to me in the middle of a conversation with a friend. I could feel my face relax. I was aware that I was fully aware, and I was able to attend to what he was saying in a deeper way. My breathing slowed, and just for a moment I forgot that I HAD TOO MUCH TO DO AT WORK, THE WORLD WAS OUT TO GET ME AND MY WIFE DOESN'T GIVE A DAMN, AND WHY DOES EVERYBODY WANT ME TO FIX EVERYTHING...............
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