Chuck, you rock! Thanks for taking the time to respond. Yes, I am an addict, and I'm not afraid to admit it. Yes, I need help quitting, hence my visit / posts to this site. What I loved most about your words is that you pointed out some insidious ways the addiction can manipulate. You also called me out by shedding light on a few blind spots I had, which I now see. I heard a radio show 3 months ago about people's unwillingness to change -- even in the face of dire consequences. It was upon hearing that show that I promptly emptied two cans of chew out my car window and stayed chew-free for over 2 months...until I felt I couldn't deal with this family illness w/out a crutch. Chuck, you're so right, stressors will always be there, and I can deal with this family illness (and other stressors) without chew. I've done it during many other stressful times in my life. You are also right in that this is dire. I'm going to find that radio segment again, listen to it, and post the link / info here. I'm also going to dig deep and find that same strength when I heard this segment the first time. I don't know how this roll call / group thing works yet, but I'll figure it out. Thank you again for your awesome words. Off to research now...
Hi there. Took a lot for me to actually register on this site, but I did and now I'm here writing, which is a good first step. I don't think I fit the typical chewer profile, but I'm hoping you'll help support me anyway! I'm a professional woman in my 40's whose husband does NOT chew. I'm very private about my dirty habit, and very few people in my life know. Started chewing at 16, thanks to the men in my life at the time who also chewed: boyfriend, coaches & teachers. While I can't stand smoking (insanely hypocritical), I've been chewing on and off for close to 25 years. I've quit many times -- sometimes for several years, and I've tried the patch, the gum, cold Turkey, and Chantix, which is a crazy-maker. I've never tried an online support group like this, though. Just last month, I was into my 67th day of being chew-free (was using the patch), and we found out a family member is terminally ill with only months to live. Upon receiving that news, I hopped into my car and drove to the first 7-11 I could find. Since then, guilt, self-loathing, and a frustrated spouse have motivated me to give this support community a shot and set a NEW AND FINAL quit date of October 30th. I welcome any words of encouragement you may have. Thanks!