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  1. Ladies and Gentlemen, I have heard moans and complaints that using the site is difficult, especially while using a phone. Here is the good news: Despite what you've heard, this site is MUCH easier than it used to be, especially on a phone, I promise! I am going to post two YouTube tutorials on how to use the 'copy and paste' function for two types of phones: iPhone and Android. Copy and paste is really all you really need to know! Don't worry about using the Quote tools. You don't need to use them...forget about them for now. Copy and paste is all you need to know on your laptop or desktop too, but I'm assuming you already know how to use those functions (hint: on laptops or desktops use CTRL + C to copy text, and CTRL V to paste). If you are posting roll call on a phone or laptop/desktop: 1) Go to the bottom of the last page of the thread you are posting roll call to; copy all the text (& pics) from the last post. 2) Paste the copied text into the box at the bottom of the page where it says 'Reply to this topic...' 3) Edit the text however you want BEFORE you hit 'Submit Reply' . The videos below show you how to copy and paste with the two main types of phones (it's actually easier than depicted in these videos because you don't have to open or close apps, you just copy the last post and paste in the 'Reply to this topic...' box at the bottom of the page. iPhone Android
  2. rwm3892

    Quitters Wanted

    March 3, 2019 This is not a dead site. We are an active community of people who have quit smokeless tobacco. Our mission is to provide a support network for those who want to quit. Anybody who wants to quit is welcome. If you are thinking about quitting, you can register, read, ask questions, look around as much as you like. You can remain anonymous. If you know you want to quit, I would suggest you jump in today. You can quit this instant. Why wait? Do not give your addict-self a chance to talk you out of it. It's simple and works like this: 1. Find your quit group (the newest one is currently http://forum.qssn.org/index.php?/forum/259-june-2019/). 2. Type in your name (handle), and promise not to use today. We add our days quit just to keep track, but we are all equally getting through one day without using. 3. Do the same thing the next day. 4. Repeat. Simple, but not easy. If you have questions, you can ask in the space below. Or you can send any member a message. I would be happy to meet you on the boards. -rwm3892 - 726 days quit and I promise no nicotine today.
  3. You're probably a dip addict if: You've deferred sex for nicotine You've been broke and paid for it with a credit card (you financed your addiction you idiot, you actually paid interest on it!) You've looked for the faded round ring on strangers pockets in a crowd so you could bum a dip You've lied about using You've stashed cans to ensure your next fix was never out of reach You've driven across town because your regular c-store was out You've fallen asleep with a dip in You've recycled a dip because you were running low You've put a dip in and experienced pain because your lip is shredded You've stolen from your kids piggy bank to finance your addiction You've not only eaten with a dip in, you've actually gotten proficient at it Aren't you tired of being its bitch? That can end right now!
  4. Welcome! You're here because you need to quit. We know it. You know it. However, we know what runs your life right now. It's not you. You cannot run your life until you spit that crap out of your mouth and flush the contents of your can down the toilet. Rinse the can out while you're there. Flush and rinse any extra stash you might have. I used to go digging through my trash bin just to find my proverbial last can and scrape the bottom corners for any remaining flakes of nicotine-enhanced sawdust. Now, make a promise...No more. How does that make you feel? Below is something I wrote in the newcomer's group a couple days ago. I wrote it for you, but you haven't spit, flushed, and rinsed yet. You should do that in the next few minutes rather than waiting until some special date. Here's why... 2/16/19 When we first get here, very much have the mind of a full-blown addict. When we are using, an addict mind convinces us that we can not live without dip, so we desperately make excuses, and exist on our own rules of logic to keep on using. However, somewhere along the line, we suspect we are living a lie. That suspicion hangs around in the shadows most of the time, but sometimes we are confronted with it, often by other people. We usually get combative and hostile. We isolate ourselves. We usually then double-down on our addiction. It is our only friend, we say. Then, sometimes, further along the line, we get a moment of clarity, where we know we are living a lie, and our addiction has something to do with it. Then sometimes we get around to deciding to do something about it. We know what it is: Quitting. The word strikes terror in our hearts. We have built a world of complete dependence on dip. Deciding to do something about it is NOT doing something about it. Usually, the deciding to decide process hovers around us like a kettle of vultures for months or years. Those are some funky days, not matter how long they last. We feel pathetic each time we put a dip in, knowing we are playing a game of Russian Roulette for something that isn't really working for us. But, if we're lucky, we do do something about it. Spitting out a dip and tossing the contents of the can in the toilet and flushing it is doing something. It's absolutely terrifying. We wonder if it's the right decision to make right now because we can feel ourselves instantly falling apart. We know that as much as dip sucks, it's at least keeping us in one piece for another day. We'll dip to hopefully live another day, we say, and on it goes. Well, you're damn lucky you found us. Why, you ask, is it lucky to find a bunch of crotchety ex-dippers? The answer is because these crotchety ex-dippers have been there and we know there is a much better life on the other side. We wrote the book on excuses and bullshit. It's all old hat for us. We know that the the mind of an addict has its own jacked up program running and we know you can't tell the difference between the jacked up program and some sane version 1.0. We don't fault you for it either. Everybody who comes in here should be crazy as a bat, or we would wonder what's up. We want, and want you, to keep quitting, no matter how you feel, or what your crazy head is telling you to do, and mainly it's telling you to just go buy a can of dip, or maybe some other substitute, so you'll stay on the hook. When we are addicts, we are just as dependent on jacked up thinking as we are on dip. We're here to tell you that your mind, and your body will heal in time, and all the suckiness you're going to go through will be worth it. But you have to stick with it long enough for the miracle (or series of miracles) to happen. -RWM Discussion, and any other point of view, is welcome. But please, dump and flush first. Promise no more, and we go from there. If you think you can't do that now, tell us why. In that case, do stick around for feedback.
  5. It's never too late to quit tobacco, even if time ran out on lots of other things. You can reclaim your dignity.
  6. There is no being ready. Jump as soon as possible. Thinking about it gives you a chance to talk yourself out of it. I thought my way out of it 10,000 times. Now I can only say "Why did I wait so long?" A better life awaits. Why would you wait one minute longer for that? Yes, the water is freezing cold and a shock to the system, but in a few days the shock wears off and you start learning to live without your longtime crutch. 708 tough days quit and I cherish each and every one.
  7. rwm3892

    HEY, Y'all!

    Major congrats to you for 10 years of kicking Copenhagen to the curb. Don't be a stranger. We have a good group of quitters. A much smaller group, but we're making it work. We always appreciate the oldtimer's support.
  8. Congratulations on almost 12 years. I agree with you about accountability and getting involved as much as possible. Maybe you aren't around as much as you used to be, but you guys left a wealth of knowledge and experience. Every once in a while I read the HOF speeches and the earlier pages of your quit groups for inspiration.
  9. As a follow up to yesterday's response...a new November 2018 HOF Quit Group is open for business.
  10. Welcome. Big congrats to you for making that decision! Our admin people haven't created a new quit group for November 2018 yet. They are slipping. You can post roll call in the October 2018 group until admin creates the newest quit group, but you'll be a group of one. No one else has had the guts to commit to quitting such as you've done. Hopefully you start a trend. I'll support you wherever you post roll call and I'm positive others will support you as well.
  11. Thanks for the update. Now we have to wait for that next bridge. We'll be here for you as much as it is possible on an online forum. This is a pretty good place to vent. You could go to one of the quit groups and post roll call too. You'll have some additional support there.
  12. Thanks for the head's up, Thunder. We promote the concept that we are dip addicts for the rest of our lives, and quit only for today. It's not easy to actually believe that. It's a crazy ass-addiction that defies time and reason. Huge congrats to you for keeping the lip clear of dip for 17 years, one day at a time.
  13. I am the epitomy of irrational thinking when it comes to dip. Here is something helpful DonewithLT posted last month that goes right with what you're asking: http://whyquit.com/FFN/chapters/FFN_04_Rationalizations.pdf While this whole article is great, there is a section from page 6 - 10 on the fallacy that using nicotine reduced stress and helped us cope with stressful situations. This totally debunks that myth and also provides good info on why we have struggled with temper, anger, and cussing like sailors since quitting. Great, great read for throwing that flawed logic out the window and would suggest reading the entire chapter if you can find the time. Just read it during the time you used to chew
  14. Your body and mind are going through great changes during the early days of your quit. Living without dip is like learning to walk. So it's not surprising that your body and mind might need the extra rest. At this point, your only priority should be hitting the pillow tonight without having to take a dip today. That, my friend, is a raving success. Family and/or work will have to take a backseat for a little while. It's all temporary. Hopefully you can talk with your family and let them know that you might be indisposed for a couple weeks. Everyone will be just fine. This is a temporary suck that pays big time dividends back. But the quit seems to have a timeline of its own. You only have control over what goes in your mouth. Also, what you expressed here is very similar to what most quitters are going through in the early stages. Hang in there. A walk or any other exercise will certainly help. I even recommend fake dip. It fools your brain somewhat and gets you through those high trigger moments.
  15. Use it as it is intended and it will work!
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