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2 hours ago, TroutSlayer said:

Hi im corey im new here on day 4 so far so good avid trout fisherman hence the name

Welcome Trout! Stick around. We are a bit strange, but we are quitters! Go to the May 2019 group in the pre hof group.

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15 hours ago, Flavius Victor said:

TR speaks for himself; we're a perfectly sane an ordinary lot of addicts in denial here....  :)

 

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On 1/16/2019 at 6:51 PM, Flavius Victor said:

Stop in and introduce yourself.  

Hello all. New here. I’ve selected the 15 as my quit date. Been chewing red man for 20+ years and to say I’m nervous is an understatement. Anyway. I’m ready. Tired of this crap. I may decide to jump in early but want to be sure. Any advice? I could use it. 

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Welcome to the site.  Former 20+ year user myself; been off the stuff for nearly 15 years now.  The only thing stopping you is, well, you.  

Hope to see you back on the 15th.

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On 2/10/2019 at 6:28 PM, JamesHTaylor said:

I may decide to jump in early but want to be sure.

There is no being ready. Jump as soon as possible. Thinking about it gives you a chance to talk yourself out of it. I thought my way out of it 10,000 times. Now I can only say "Why did I wait so long?" 

A better life awaits. Why would you wait one minute longer for that?

Yes, the water is freezing cold and a shock to the system, but in a few days the shock wears off and you start learning to live without  your longtime crutch. 

708 tough days quit and I cherish each and every one. 

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On 2/10/2019 at 8:28 PM, JamesHTaylor said:

Hello all. New here. I’ve selected the 15 as my quit date. Been chewing red man for 20+ years and to say I’m nervous is an understatement. Anyway. I’m ready. Tired of this crap. I may decide to jump in early but want to be sure. Any advice? I could use it. 

It always saddens me to see a delayed promise to quick without a follow-up day 1 post or other confirmation that the long journey back to freedom has begun. :( 

Euty ~ day 4,555 nicotine-Free following a 30 -year surrender to the Nicotine Slave Master.

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5 hours ago, Eutychus said:

It always saddens me to see a delayed promise to quick without a follow-up day 1 post or other confirmation that the long journey back to freedom has begun. :( 

Euty ~ day 4,555 nicotine-Free following a 30 -year surrender to the Nicotine Slave Master.

It's never too late to quit tobacco, even if time ran out on lots of other things. You can reclaim your dignity.

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Welcome! You're here because you need to quit. We know it. You know it. However, we know what runs your life right now. It's not you. You cannot run your life until you spit that crap out of your mouth and flush the contents of your can down the toilet. Rinse the can out while you're there. Flush and rinse any extra stash you might have. I used to go digging through my trash bin just to find my proverbial last can and scrape the bottom corners for any remaining flakes of nicotine-enhanced sawdust. Now, make a promise...No more. How does that make you feel? Below is something I wrote in the newcomer's group a couple days ago. I wrote it for you, but you haven't spit, flushed, and rinsed yet. You should do that in the next few minutes rather than waiting until some special date. Here's why...

2/16/19

When we first get here, very much have the mind of a full-blown addict. When we are using,  an addict mind convinces us that we can not live without dip, so we desperately make excuses, and exist on our own rules of logic to keep on using.  However, somewhere along the line,  we suspect we are living a lie. That suspicion hangs around in the shadows most of the time, but sometimes we are confronted with it, often by other people. We usually get combative and hostile. We isolate ourselves. We usually then double-down on our addiction. It is our only friend, we say. Then, sometimes, further along the line, we get a moment of clarity, where we know we are living a lie, and our addiction has something to do with it. Then sometimes we get around to deciding to do something about it.  We know what it is: Quitting. The word strikes terror in our hearts. We have built a world of complete dependence on dip. 

 Deciding to do something about it is NOT doing something about it. Usually, the deciding to decide process hovers around us like a kettle of vultures for months or years. Those are some funky days, not matter how long they last. We feel pathetic each time we put a dip in, knowing we are playing a game of Russian Roulette for something that isn't really working for us.  But, if we're lucky, we do do something about it. Spitting out a dip and tossing the contents of the can in the toilet and flushing it is doing something. It's absolutely terrifying. We wonder if it's the right decision to make right now because we can feel ourselves instantly falling apart. We know that as much as dip sucks, it's at least keeping us in one piece for another day. We'll dip to hopefully live another day, we say, and on it goes. 

Well, you're damn lucky you found us. Why, you ask, is it lucky to find a bunch of crotchety ex-dippers? The answer is because these crotchety ex-dippers have been there and we know there is a much better life on the other side. We wrote the book on excuses and bullshit. It's all old hat for us. We know that the the mind of an addict has its own jacked up program running and we know you can't tell the difference between the jacked up program and some sane version 1.0. We don't fault you for it either. Everybody who comes in here should be crazy as a bat, or we would wonder what's up.  We want, and want you, to keep quitting, no matter how you feel, or what your crazy head is telling you to do, and mainly it's telling you to just go buy a can of dip, or maybe some other substitute, so you'll stay on the hook. When we are addicts, we are just as dependent on jacked up thinking as we are on dip. We're here to tell you that your mind, and your body will heal in time, and all the suckiness you're going to go through will be worth it. But you have to stick with it long enough for the miracle (or series of miracles) to happen.

-RWM 

Discussion, and any other point of view, is welcome. But please, dump and flush first. Promise no more, and we go from there. 

If you think you can't do that now, tell us why. In that case, do stick around for feedback.

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17 hours ago, rwm3892 said:

It's never too late to quit tobacco, even if time ran out on lots of other things. You can reclaim your dignity.

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You're probably a dip addict if:


You've deferred sex for nicotine
You've been broke and paid for it with a credit card (you financed your addiction you idiot, you actually paid interest on it!)
You've looked for the faded round ring on strangers pockets in a crowd so you could bum a dip
You've lied about using
You've stashed cans to ensure your next fix was never out of reach
You've driven across town because your regular c-store was out
You've fallen asleep with a dip in
You've recycled a dip because you were running low
You've put a dip in and experienced pain because your lip is shredded
You've stolen from your kids piggy bank to finance your addiction
You've not only eaten with a dip in, you've actually gotten proficient at it

Aren't you tired of being its bitch?

That can end right now!

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