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WHY DO WE KEEP TRACK OF QUIT DAYS?

 

One of the mottos at QSSN is to "just quit for today". Looking too far into the future can be scary when quitting. When we first quit, most of us are doubtful that we can stay quit for very long, much less forever. But we have found thru experience that anyone can quit for just one day. Sure, it can be difficult, when you're used to using tobacco several times a day. But we have never had anyone die on the site from lack of nicotine! All we ask is that you try to quit for one full day. Wake up, get thru the entire day, then go to sleep in the evening without using any tobacco. As difficult as it may sound, the process is actually quite simple. Just say 'no tobacco today', no matter what happens.

 

But it doesn't end there. Once you quit for a full day, the next day we will ask you to do the same thing…quit for the whole day. Though you may really be getting jittery and experiencing various withdrawals at this point, the logic remains the same. Just get thru the whole day without tobacco. Don't think about tomorrow or next week. Just today. When you start getting irritable and say you can't make it, we just point out that you went all day yesterday without tobacco, so you can do the same today.

 

Once you make it thru day two…well, you guessed it. We keep asking you to make the same promise, day after day. And what you will find out is that it gets a little easier each day. Before you know it, you will be clean for 3 days, then a full week, then 2 weeks, 3 weeks, a month, 2 months, and so on.

 

If you take it one day at a time, then why keep track of your quit day? Well, thru research and practical experience, we have found that most quitters experience similar things around certain days. For example, days 1 thru 3 are probably the hardest, because it takes approximately 3 days for nicotine to leave your body. During these early days, your body will experience most of the physical withdrawals from quitting. You are depriving your body of the drug that it has become addicted over the months and years that you abused it with tobacco. Keep in mind, if you are using the nicotine patch, nicotine gum or nicotine lozenges, you will not experience the full physical withdrawals until you quit providing your body with ANY nicotine. Though NRT programs may prove successful to some, many on this site recommend going "cold turkey"…meaning, stop using all nicotine in any form. However, it is your decision on the best way to proceed with your own quit.

 

After the first 3 days, what we call the "mental battle" kicks in. Though the nicotine has left your body for the most part, you mind has become conditioned to associate tobacco with pretty much everything…dip while drinking coffee, dip while reading a newspaper, dip while in the shower, dip in the car, dip at work, dip while watching TV…you get the idea. So for many days, weeks, and even months, your mind will still try to convince you that you need tobacco. Don't fall for the "just one" lie. No tobacco means no tobacco. If you have even one dip or chew (or cigarette or cigar), you re-introduce nicotine back into your system and your start back at day one, with the same physical withdrawals to go thru.

 

You will have ups and downs throughout your quit. For example, you might start feeling better, then sometimes around the two week mark people notice a severe change in mood. We call this a "crave". Just hang in there…it passes in time. Another difficult period reported has been around the 50-80 day time period. Basically, people have done well up to this point, and their mind realizes that this isn't just a temporary thing…you really are quitting! You get tired of the "quitting process". You think after 2 months it shouldn't bother you any more, but it does. So your mind starts one last big fight with you. It tries to tell you that you've proved you can do it, so now you can reward yourself with a dip or chew. Or it tries to tell you that if you're still having cravings, you obviously will never be able to quit, so why keep punishing yourself? Don't believe the lies. Stay strong and get thru this period, and on the other side of it you will once again start feeling good again, even better than before.

 

Though you may have craves at any time, after this amount of time they should not be anything you cannot handle. There's sometimes a difficult period around 120-130 days. Another period shortly after 200 days. But again, these are nothing you cannot deal with.

 

So, the reason we keep track of quit days is so that we know where you are in your quit and what to warn you of. If you say you're having a hard time, and we find out you're on day 70, we know that it is just the late term funk that many of us have been through. Or, if you're on day 2, we know you're going thru the worst of the physical withdrawals.

 

Another purpose of tracking quit days is so that we can acknowledge milestones. People who are not nicotine addicts do not realize how difficult it is to quit using tobacco. We understand what you're going thru. Therefore, we like to try to encourage our fellow quitters by acknowledging their accomplishments. That is why you'll see people often congratulating others when they reach day 3, or a full week without tobacco, or 2 weeks, a month, 6 weeks, 2 months, 100 days, 1 year, etc. It's just sort of a 'pat on the back' for staying quit!

 

WHAT IS THE "HALL OF FAME"?

 

In keeping track of milestones along the way, the first major milestone for many is 100 days quit. When a member of QSSN reaches his or her 100th day without tobacco, we call that "reaching the Hall of Fame" (or the HOF, for short). It also seems that the majority of withdrawals last about 3 months for a quitter, so the 100 day milestone seems like a good milestone to acknowledge. Plus, it is the mark of a quitter entering into triple digits for the first time.

 

One benefit of reaching the Hall of Fame is that you are then entitled to post a HOF speech. If you haven't already read them, the Hall of Fame speeches often document what our members went thru to get to the first 100 days of their quit. The speeches are posted here.

 

WHAT ARE "QUIT GROUPS"?

 

Members on QSSN are assigned various quit groups based on the month in which they will reach this HOF milestone. Because we want to encourage members to talk with others who are experiencing the same withdrawals as they are around the same point in time, we have found that it's best to divide the groups according to these HOF months. So when you are in a January HOF group, for example, that means the people in there will reach the Hall of Fame in January; it does not mean their first quit day was in January.

 

New members often ask "How do I join a quit group"? The answer is, if you have quit, you're already in one. Just go to the appropriate quit group and introduce yourself to the other members. Ask questions and get to know each other. Talk about your quitting experiences. Let them know if you're having problems. Share your successes with the group. Learn how to post roll call and do it daily.

 

Though you need to post daily in your own quit group, there are no restrictions against posting in a group that has more or has less quit days than your own quit group. The more fellow quitters you get to know, the more accountability you add to your quit.

 

WHAT IS "POSTING ROLL"?

 

Each day, the first thing you should try to do in the morning is post roll call. This is a process whereby you post your name and usually your quit number (plus anything else you wish to post) on a running list of your fellow members called a "Roll Call". By posting your name on this roll call, you are making a solemn promise that no matter WHAT happens that day, you will not use tobacco. We have found that most people consider their word sacred around here. So if they promise something, they are more likely to do it than if they did not make the promise. Many members have recounted stories of when they were having a bad day and wanted to use tobacco, but that they did not cave, because they remembered that they had posted roll that morning and promised their brothers and sisters that they would not use tobacco. By the time that day was over, they felt much more confident and were glad that they stuck to their promise. Then, by the next morning, they posted roll call for the next day and kept that promise as well.

 

Keeping a promise to your fellow quitter is very important. But also important is keeping a promise to YOURSELF. Even if you think you could lie to your quit group, you will still have to look at yourself in the mirror if you break the promise you made. And you cannot lie to yourself.

 

So, make sure you post roll call early each day. For those that don't know, here are the instructions for posting roll call.

 

WHAT IS THE "GENERAL DISCUSSIONS" AREA FOR?

 

Many members, especially after a few days, get tired of just talking about tobacco and quitting. They need something to take their mind off their quit. The General Discussions area is for members to discuss many different things that are often not related to their quit. For example, there are currently forums to discuss sports, religion, politics, health and fitness, and just basic leisure discussions. Each of these categories are divided into sub-categories. So, under Sports, you may choose to participate in a sub-category forum such as football, baseball, golf, hunting, or others. And new sub-categories are added all the time by our members. So, feel free to spend some time discussing your favorite topics with fellow quitters and getting to know them better.

 

WHAT IS THE "LIVE CHAT" FOR?

 

Sometimes members get together in the chat room to talk with fellow members. This can be a very useful quit tool, especially if you need to real time assistance. Simply click on the Live Chat button located on the top right of each page. You will need to have Java installed and enabled on your computer, and you must be logged in to use it. If no one is in chat when you go there, you may want to post on the site, whether it is in the Café or in your quit group, that you need to talk to someone in chat. Depending on the time of day, it's likely that someone will show up as quickly as they see the message.

 

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